Robert Sapolsky was my faculty advisor for my biology major in college. He is a phenomenal teacher and lecturer. He told all his classes not to be doctors, but to consider being a bench researcher because if you are able to create a vaccine, you will immediately cure more people than any doctor could help in their lifetime. He is a world famous specialist on stress hormones. This is an article about his research. An article that reminds us that stress is a source of much of our physical, emotional, and mental hardships.
Tag Archives: life
Unnoticed Wonders
A poem written by my daughter-
Unnoticed Wonders
Dedicated to the small things we love, but never pay attention to
A brand new box of sharp, colorful crayons
The way the ocean feels on bare feet
A leaf’s delicate design
The taste of fresh, red apples
A puppy’s velvety ears
The smell of a new book
The wind blowing in your face
Splashing in puddles
The birds’ chirping
Roasting marshmallows
A sense of accomplishment
Laughter
Dessert
The way your hair floats around you when you’re underwater
Riding a roller coaster
Being told that you’re good at something
Catching your first fish
Swinging on a swing
Being with your friends
Dressing up
Getting a present
Doing a fun craft
Sitting by the fire
Watching lightning flash across the sky
Drinking cool lemonade on a hot July day
Imagining what it would feel like to fly
Playing an exciting game
Staying up late
Watching a movie while eating popcorn
Jumping on the trampoline
Playing tag
Don’t Worry #2
As I pointed out in Don’t Worry #1, living in the ‘now here’ is a powerful way to combat worry. In Dale Carnegie’s book: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living, his first point is: Live today! Don’t worry/focus on yesterday or tomorrow.
“…twenty-one words from Thomas Carlyle that helped him lead a life free from worry: “Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.””
“What I urge is that you so learn to control the machinery as to live with ‘day-tight compartments’ as the most certain way to ensure safety on the voyage. Get on the bridge, and see that at least the great bulkheads are in working order. Touch a button and hear, at every level of your life, the iron doors shutting out the Past the dead yesterdays. Touch another and shut off, with a metal curtain, the Future the unborn tomorrows. Then you are safe, safe for today! Shut off the past! Let the dead past bury its dead. Shut out the yesterdays which have lighted fools the way to dusty death. The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, carried today, makes the strongest falter. Shut off the future as tightly as the past. The future is today. There is no tomorrow. The day of man’s salvation is now. Waste of energy, mental distress, nervous worries dog the steps of a man who is anxious about the future. Shut close, then the great fore and aft bulkheads, and prepare to cultivate the habit of life of ‘day-tight compartments.’ ”
“Tomorrow, do thy worst, for I have lived today.”-Roman poet Horace.
“life ‘is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour.'”
“This speech contains twenty-six words that have gone ringing down across the centuries: “Take therefore no thought for the morrow; for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” (Matthew 6: 34)
Men of Pathways: Get in the Game!
Join us this Wednesday as we open God’s word and learn from Super Bowl winning Head Coach of the Indianapolis Colts, Tony Dungy, as we go on a six week journey to becoming the men that God created us to be. Come join us and connect with other men in authentic ways and find your answers to the six questions that men often deal with…..
1. What is my Game plan?
2.Where’s my security?
3. What’s my strength?
4. What’s my significance?
5. What’s success?
6. What’s my legacy?
Wed. mornings from 7-8 at the Northpark Club House (10 Meadow Valley, Irvine, 92602)
Please RSVP so I can have a study book ready for you.
Blessings Bucky
How David Beats Goliah: HARD Work, Listening, & Great Coaching
I have thoroughly enjoyed Malcolm Gladwell’s writing. I recommend all 3 of his books: Tipping Point, Blink, & Outliers. He also has a website which contains much of his articles/writing. I found this very interesting and, at times, inspiring article about Basketball, hard work, coaching, and life.
Let us know your thoughts.
Clever and Inspiring Video: Kingdom Living
LIVING LIFE to the FULLEST
A friend just sent me this slide show. It is well worth watching, and it is filled with simple truths. ENJOY! And please share your thoughts/comments below with us.
Why do I date other men?
Laughter is often the first response when I share with others that I “date” other men, but they soon realize that I am serious. I have developed deep, intimate, tell all relationships with several men in my life, and it has transformed my marriage, my parenting, and my life. It is a fundamental piece of being fully alive.
How do you do this?
1. First: Finding the right man for you. What does this future confidant look like?
a. CHEMISTRY: We all know that there are certain people that we have ‘chemistry’ with. There are some guys that you know that you really enjoy their company, and their personalities mesh with yours. How do you find them? You have to get involved! Go to men’s group!
b. VOLUNTERABILITY: It takes stepping out–moving beyond your comfort zone and removing your mask. This is the toughest step. It will take time to break down the walls that we as men construct to keep everyone away. You have to start with small forays into sharing a little carve out of your struggles and pains to see how it goes. If you find the right guy, he will respond in kind, and you both will continue to grow deeper in your friendship.
c. TRUST: You have to set up a wall around your relationship with this guy. Once you establish that this may be the right guy, and you have started the process of volunterability. You will need at some point to establish boundaries to protect your ‘secrets’. This is a verbal agreement to keep what you each share confidential.
2. Second: What do you do with the right guy?
a. TIME: You have to carve out the time to meet. It is essential that you have an agreement to meet weekly or biweekly. I have also developed a habit of calling (yes often daily) to check in and catch up when I can’t meet that week or so.
b. TALK: What usually happens when you have the time to meet or talk on the phone? Men talk about…..NOTHING! The weather, sports, etc. STOP! I need to intentially STOP, and get on subject. This is key because I STILL do this with my confidants! I find that we have burned through the time we have together by talking about nothing substantial. Don’t get me wrong, these topics are fun and important commaradirie…BUT it is just what they say it is: SMALL talk. The BIG talk must be done, and it can be hard work. Ask and Listen. How is your marriage going? What was the last fight about with your bride? How are each of your kids? How are you doing with your struggles? etc.
3. Third: Why?
Deep, intimate fellowship with a brother WILL transform your life! It will make you a better husband, father, friend, co-worker, and ‘little’ Christ.
A friend sent me a link to an entry on his blog that describes the importance and power of joining a group of men: “Some Honest Men”
Try it! And let us know your thoughts.
Men on the Path: Men’s Group on Wednesday’s
Get READY! We are starting a new adventure as men on the path together.
- WHEN: Wednesday’s from 6:45am-8:00am
- STARTING: September 24, 2008
- WHAT: We are going to be looking at the TOP 10 things men need to know
- WHERE: North Park Community Center (NOTE: It is best to enter the housing complex off of Portola Parkway because then when you go through the gate the club house where we are meeting is straight ahead of you.